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Chicago Grandmother Asks for Advice as Grandchild’s Biological Mother Uses Grandchild as “Pawn” in Break-Up


A Chicago grandmother wrote into the newspaper desperate for answers in a sticky and very tricky child custody and family law question. “Concerned Grandmother” wrote into the Chicago Tribune’s “Ask Amy” advice column seeking a solution for an impossible situation her young son and grandson landed in after her son left her grandson’s mother. “Concerned Grandmother” explained that her son, called “Thomas”, dated “Allyssa” on-and-off during the pairs’ high school years. In her son’s senior year, and Allyssa’s junior year, Allyssa became pregnant and Thomas was the father, proven by a paternity test. So far, the young mother and father, while not together any longer, had not worked out any child custody issues for the now-10-month-old in court, and had made their own “visitation” plan on their own. Under the visitation plan, “Concerned Grandmother” explained, Thomas stays with her son three days per week. However, “Concerned Grandmother” went on, the sharing of Thomas has become very messy, as Allyssa uses the baby as a “pawn” when Thomas begins dating a new woman. “Concerned Grandmother” explained, “She doesn’t want her son to be around another girl, and makes up terrible lies about the girl as a reason to keep the baby away. When Thomas tries to keep a good friendship between him and Allyssa for the baby’s sake, Allyssa thinks he wants to resume their romance. When she doesn’t get what she wants, it’s total drama. I know a lot of this is immaturity, but she also has an unhealthy obsession with my son.” Finally, “Concerned Grandmother” made her plea for advice to “Ask Amy”, asking, “I’ve advised him to either continue on this course, knowing the pitfalls, or go through the courts for joint custody. He’s afraid of how Allyssa will react. He’s afraid she won’t let him see the baby for months, during the time it would take to go before a judge. What do you think?”

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In response to “Concerned Grandmother”, “Ask Amy” replied with an urgent and important message: “Your son should see a lawyer immediately in order to establish parental rights and responsibilities. Otherwise, “Allyssa” will continue to manipulate him, threatening access to their child. She could also choose to move, taking their son with her, and “Thomas” would then have to scramble to try to assert his legal rights.”

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There is no doubt that “Ask Amy’s” advice should be followed by any parent who is concerned about child custody issues. If you are in the Chicago area and you are seeking legal help for your Chicago child custody case, contact the experienced Chicago child custody lawyers at Birnbaum Gelfman Sharma & Arnoux, LLC. They offer a confidential consultation to learn about your child custody case to see if they can help you fight for your child custody rights. Contact Birnbaum Gelfman Sharma & Arnoux, LLC today and speak to a lawyer about your rights and options now.



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